||Being the spouse of an adult with ADHD can be extremely frustrating. While you may organize and plan well, the spouse with ADHD may not.
When you live with someone who has ADHD, you may find yourself over-whelmed, because there are so many details to attend to, and your partner just does not concentrate on the details that are such an important part of life.
Many times, you, as the non-ADHD partner, are ultimately responsible for the many details, organization and planning of life. This sometimes can lead to feeling resentful. Not only do you have to take care of your responsibilities, but you are often left to be responsible for your partner's.
There are so many different roles which we must fulfill that it is easy to be over-whelmed. When two partners have different values, life can become quite stressful and demanding.
It is so important to understand ADHD and to understand how the person with ADHD thinks. An adult with ADHD may not organize or plan well, may not put things back where they belong and may not pay attention to details. They may be spontaneous and creative, which are wonderful strengths, but this can conflict with the planning and detail-oriented spouse.
||Coaching can help you discover new ways of coping. It allows the time to develop alternative ways of looking at the frustrating situations created in an ADHD marriage and to develop new insights and coping skills to release the tensions.
Coaching provides a time for you to be heard, supported and encouraged!
Learning to set limits, both with yourself and your ADHD partner, is extremely important. This can help reduce feeling over-whelmed and resentful.
Coaching can help to educate you about ADHD and how it feels for your partner. It is also important to identify the strengths which your ADHD partner brings to the relationship.
- Provide support and encouragement
- Increase coping skills
- Increase understanding of ADHD and its' impact on your partner
- Learn to have more control and less stress
- Learn to set healthy limits
- Understand how ADHD impacts YOU